With 2014 rapidly coming to a close, I reflect on the days passed. I don’t stay there long, but in that reflection, I can readily admit that it has been one the most difficult years of my life. If I were Stevie Nicks, this would have been my year to write “Landslide”. It has been a year of intense personal growth and hardship, and despite that declaration, I have always found that it is in those moments of growth that you find yourself facing your biggest fears. You stand up for yourself. You do the hard, but often right thing. You determine the course of your life and fight for it every step of the way. As far as I know, I only get this one shot, who knows how short, so I live my life every day trying to make the most of it all both personally and professionally. All of the failures, the heart ache, the loss, as well as the successes, the laughter, and the moments so beautiful and powerful that you can’t even believe what you are capable of doing. Personal, I know, but that’s a part of who I am, and that’s ok. All of this brought to mind the story of the Elephant Rope:
He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” the trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”
The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.”
I realize that I have at times been tied by that same rope. Held by fear, failure and judgment in a world that, in my opinion, puts too much emphasis on so many of the wrong things. I have allowed myself to be held in place by other people’s opinions and judgments, as well as some of my own. The message is simple. Take a look at your life and identify the things/people that are holding you back. Find the strength, fearlessness and willingness to break those ties. Move forward with the belief that you are free to live your life without limitation. We all are different, and releasing the expectation that someone else is going to be willing to understand and accept you for who you are is liberating. Does it really change anything if they don’t?
It was Herbert Spencer who said, “Be bold, be bold, and
everywhere be bold.” And man will I try to be BOLD whenever I can. That is the
promise that I have made to myself. Cut the ties to anything that diminishes
the heart and soul of who you want to be, and the life that you want to live.
Be yourself and make the most of your moments. I know I will too. It won’t be
perfection, but it has got to be better than the alternative. I wish you all
health and happiness in the days to follow and the year to come.